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Sex Addiction: The Difference in Resentments for Sex Addicts, Alcoholics and Drug Addicts

Sex Addiction: The Difference in Resentments for Sex Addicts, Alcoholics and Drug Addicts

In step five we are asked to admit to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. In step four we list our resentments, who we wronged in our lives and we take responsibility for our actions. I found in a recent discussion with Indian Bob, from Recovery...
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Sex Addiction: Do You Believe in Justifiable Anger?

Sex Addiction: Do You Believe in Justifiable Anger?

Is anger ever justifiable? Should you be angry? Is it healthy? What is anger? So let’s start by talking about what anger is. Anger is defined as a strong feeling of displeasure and belligerence aroused by a wrong, grief, trouble. Justifiable means something that can be shown or can be defended as being just,...
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Sex Addiction: What is Resentment?

Sex Addiction: What is Resentment?

Last night, 11/27/12 on the 12 step recovery talk radio show, Recovery Radio Raw,  Indian Bob and I were discussing the third and fourth steps. Bob asked me how I dealt with resentments. I replied, I didn’t really have any resentments to deal with when I worked the steps. I didn’t blame anyone for...
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Sex Addiction: What is God’s Will for Our Lives?

Sex Addiction: What is God’s Will for Our Lives?

So, what does it really mean to accept God’s will for our lives. What is God’s will? Will is the mental faculty we use to deliberately choose or decide upon a course of action. When I think I know what’s going to happen…that’s my will. When things happen that are supposed to happen, that’s...
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Let Go and Let God…What Does it Mean to a Sex Addict?

Let Go and Let God…What Does it Mean to a Sex Addict?

Last night, 11/22/12,  I was again a guest on Indian Bob’s Recovery Radio Raw which discusses all things related to 12 step recovery. On our continuing journey to discussing the 12 steps as they pertain to all addictions, we were discussing step 3 and the saying Let Go and Let God came up a...
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How Does a Sex Addict Become Rigorously Honest?

How Does a Sex Addict Become Rigorously Honest?

So, how do you as a recovering sex addict I start the process of rigorous honesty? 1. You start, and I say start, by being honest and by becoming rigorously (rigorously being strict and rigid) in your honesty. You do this by first admitting you are powerless over your unwanted obsessive compulsive sexual behaviors…...
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Sex Addiction: What are Bottom Line or Inner Circle Behaviors?

Sex Addiction: What are Bottom Line or Inner Circle Behaviors?

Bottom line or Inner Circle Behaviors are those behaviors that a sex addict does not want to engage in any more. These are the behaviors that get the sex addict in trouble, cause them to have severe consequences in their lives and get in the way of living a healthy life. Inner Circle Behaviors...
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Sex Addiction: What is Honesty?

Sex Addiction: What is Honesty?

Sounds like a simple question…For many sex addicts lying is or was a part of life. In the throes of unhealthy obsessive and compulsive behaviors, we have to lie to keep feeding the addiction and hide from everyone the shame and feelings of worthlessness and guilt. The first path of recovery is to become...
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10 Great Books on Sex Addiction and Recovery from Sex Addiction

10 Great Books on Sex Addiction and Recovery from Sex Addiction

If you’re dealing with sex addiction, a sex addict in your family or cyber sex, the following books will help you understand the disease of sex addiction and help with your journey to recovery from sex addiction. Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. Dr. Carnes’ book has been praised by...
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Sex Addiction: Are They Character Defects, Virtues, Assets or Traits?

Sex Addiction: Are They Character Defects, Virtues, Assets or Traits?

So, you begin a program of recovery and you get to step 6: Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character’ that we discovered in step 4. In step 7 ‘We humbly ask God to remove our shortcomings’ We come to discover that we do have some moral flaws, some...
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