Recovery from Sex Addiction Step 3

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Recovery from Sex Addiction Step 3Step 3 Recovery from Sex Addiction

Step 3: Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood God. 

The principle behind step 3 is Faith, Hope and Love. 

  • Faith is having confidence or trust in a person, entity, concept, idea or thing.  A belief that is not based on proof.
  • Hope is the emotional state which promotes the belief in a positive outcome related to events and circumstances in one’s life.
  • Love:  Love is a virtue representing all of human kindness, compassion, and affection 

 Wow…Having to Love self, Love God and Love others. That’s a tall order for many of us who don’t like ourselves or God or others…Faith, Hope and Love…In that order. The faith in something bigger will give us the hope the belief to love ourselves, God and others.

 Step 3 to me is all about acceptance. Accepting this moment is exactly the way it is supposed to be. This moment is perfect in every way and I don’t have to control it, manipulate it, change it. This was the toughest step for me. I had to turn my life over to the care of God…not just some parts. I couldn’t just pick and choose what to turn over…I had to turn it all over. I had to take a leap of faith as it talks about in the Green Book. I took so many risks in my life during my addiction. What could happen if I did turn my life over? What’s the worst thing that could happen? I could always take it back…And besides, I’d taken so many risks in my life before that were all in the name of selfish, self-centered, self-willed self-seeking desires. So what’s the risk?

 In working step 3 one defines how they will turn their will over to the care of the God of their understanding. Much like in step 2, the addict defines their God or higher power. The key here is  making the decision. It’s a step that only requires you to make a decision. You start the process. You don’t have to make it all happen. Do the legwork and let God do the rest.

Step 3 is an action step. I need to make a change in the course of my entire life. I have to make a decision and there will be little effect if I don’t take action. I don’t have to believe in God just my definition of such and turn it over, action.

 Step 3 Prayer

God, I offer myself to you to build with me and do with me as you will, relieve me of the bondage of self so I may better do your will, take away my difficulties so victory over them  may bear witness to those I would help of your power, your love and your way of life. May I do your will always, amen.

This prayer is all about asking God to take over control completely of my life. And remove damaging self who has done a poor job of running the show. Asking for peace, serenity, relief, so others may see how life can be through me.


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