Sex Addiction: What is Acceptance?

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The life of a sex addict is more than just the sexually addictive, obsessive and compulsive sexual behaviors. It’s about how the mind works, how the addict came to be the way he or she is. Fearful, uncertain, scared, nervous, anxious, depressed, lonely and a myriad of other negative feelings and emotions. This is all set up in the addict mind and since the sex addict does not know how to process these feelings and emotions properly, they act out and live a live of struggle.

How can an addict just accept life on life’s terms? How can an addict accept what’s happening in their lives when they can’t even accept the way they feel?

The answer is acceptance. So what is acceptance? Acceptance according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary is to receive willingly, to be able to take or hold, to regard as proper normal or inevitable.

For the sex addict and many other addict the idea of being able to accept what is happening, to be able to receive willingly what is happening right now, to regard what life gives us right now is unacceptable. The addict has to control, change, fight life. There is a saying in recovery to learn to live life on life’s terms. That’s acceptance. If life deals you something you’re not comfortable with, then learn to live with it, accept it as it should be and know, this too shall pass.

I love the acceptance prayer from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous. When I doubtful or disturbed it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation, some fact of my life unacceptable to me and I can find no serenity until  I accept that person, place, thing or situation as being exactly the way it is supposed to be at this moment, nothing, absolutely nothing happens in God’s world by mistake, until I accept my addiction I can not be sober, until I accept life on life’s terms I can not be happy. I need to concentrate not so much on what needs to be changed in the world but what needs to be changed in me and my attitudes.

Recite this prayer, write it down and embody it into your recovery from sex addiction.

It took me a long time to come to accept life on life’s terms. I always wanted to control it, manipulate it and change it. Living life on life’s terms is so much easier. And…when you spend 26 months as a guest of the Texas Department of Criminal Justice and you have absolutely no control of your life…you learn to accept what is until it isn’t anymore.

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One Response to Sex Addiction: What is Acceptance?

  1. Dustin on at

    I didn’t know there was a label for this. But as I work my recovery and reduce stress and anxiety in my life, I find that I am more accepting of life the way it is and don’t feel the need to run from it with P. and M.

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